"There's this illusion that homosexuals
have sex and heterosexuals fall in love. That's completely untrue.
Everybody wants to be loved."
LGBT People in
Matt Nathanson: Modern Love
Video: He Loves Me He Loves Me Not
Nothing Taboo: Love Song for the
Dare to Love
Be My Honeypie by the Weepies
Video: Comment on
Demonstration in Paris on Valentine's Day
Weird and Annoying Questions Gay Couples Get Asked
Wants to Be Loved by Ingrid Michaelson
Video: Comment on
What Does it Feel Like to Be in Love?
Different Kind of Love Song
Famous Same Sex
Gay & Lesbian
Video: Comment on
All I Want is You from Juno Soundtrack
Listed here are video interviews with various everyday
gay and lesbian couples talking candidly about their
relationships, about the good times and the bad times,
about their joys and struggles.
Laura & Fawn
Hattie & Amorie
Dick & Bob
Jan & Lauren
Jon & Robert
Octavia & Deborah
Eric & Stan
Steve & Mark
"Straight Americans need... an education of the heart and soul. They
must understand, to begin with, how it can feel to spend years denying
your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and
church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize
-Bruce Bawer, The Advocate, 1998
"What are you trying to protect
heterosexual marriages from? There isn't a limited amount of love. It
isn't a non-renewable resource. If Amy and Barbara or Mike and Steve
love each other, it doesn't mean that John and Mary can't."
"I met a young man who was wounded in love,
I met another man who was wounded in hatred."
Grindr: Gay On-Line
know the names of several good on-line
dating sites, including e-Harmony,
Match, Chemistry, Skout, Tingle, and
Tagged. You may be familiar with
dating apps like Picksie and Blendr.
Have you heard of Grindr?
the name of an on-line dating site and
app for gay men. It was first
launched in 2009 by Joel Simkhai.
It is currently used in over 192
countries and includes millions of
members; at any given time, 71,000 users
are logged onto Grindr and close to a
million users log into the mobile app
been described as the best "geosocial
networking" service and a "revolutionary
dating tool." some have even
called it the "scariest gay bar on
earth." Whatever the perspective,
Grindr has made an indelible mark on the
dating scene for gay men, winning many
offers an uncomplicated dating service.
You simply download and open the
application onto your mobile device. You
choose a profile name, upload a photo of
yourself, answer a couple of questions,
and sign into the application.
Grindr is a GPS location-based service
app that will quickly and easily locate
other users in your immediate area.
All You Need to Know About Grindr
Grindr Home Page
Carnival of On-line Dating
One Good Love
Rules for LGBT Dating
Love Songs and
Spanish Love Song
Maren & Katharena
Oh My God
Another Meaning of Love
Love Story: Girl Meets Girl
I met her one evening in a club in
Atlanta. I quickly became captivated. She was very intelligent and
open. She had this appealing curiosity about the world. We talked for
hours until the club closed. I saw her there again the following week.
We talked some more and started down the road to friendship. But alas --
I was to leave that weekend to go back to Florida. I gave her my
And so a whole chain of letters began.
They started out as the "getting to know you" type but then moved on to
secret dreams and thoughts.
I was so thrilled when her letters
arrived. I'd give a little yip of excitement whenever I found one in my
mail box. With every letter I became a little more enthralled with her. So we started to see each other. I would
drive up to Atlanta every few weekends and we made the ordinary magical.
Grocery stores suddenly became happy
wonderlands, all because once we went to one together to pick something
up and ended up chasing each other around with various food items,
sneaking kisses while no one was looking. Cafes became great places at which to
spend hours because we could sit together to talk and gaze into each
other's eyes. I spent the whole month of December in
Atlanta. That was perhaps the happiest single month in my life. I spent it being immersed by her presence.
The things we did were fabulous. Once we went up into the Georgia
Mountains and we found a wooded valley with a stream. We cuddled under a
blanket while we fed each other little finger foods.
But soon my worst fears came to pass. I went back to Florida, and within a
couple of weeks I received the goodbye letter from her. She felt things
had gotten too intense and she just wasn't ready for that. Could we back
off and be friends? I cried my heart out. The pain was just
I never told her I loved her. I honestly
didn't know that I was in love. It had never happened before. I was so
caught up in the swell of feelings that I never questioned what I was
feeling. Never put a name to my emotions. But this story has a happy ending.
A year later, I got a call from her on
Valentine's Day. We saw each other that week. Ever since we have gotten
together from time to time to talk in some café a couple days out of
every year, and something grand has grown. We've built a loving union that isn't
quite a relationship, but is something more than just a friendship. I finally got to tell her that I loved
her, and she came to accept it after a while. She started to tell me
that she loved me. This made me angry at first, because I love her
romantically, and I knew the love she spoke of was friendship. Her
equating the two seemed to diminish what I felt.
But I too have come to accept her love.
Our feelings are equal because although they are different in substance,
they are the same in their fierce intensity. I always tell her that one day, sixty
years from now, I'll show up on her doorstep bearing flowers and telling
her yet again how much I love her.
(From Ember.Org / Gay Love Stories)
Ellen and Portia
Video: Ellen DeGeneres and Portia DeRossi
Video: Ellen and Portia - Loving You
Video: Ellen and Portia - Crazy For You
Video: Ellen and Portia - Gift of Love
Video: Ellen and Portia - Stole My Heart
Love is Insane...
Finally there is
scientific validation for the insanity one feels when we fall in
love. Researchers have discovered that the brain's chemistry of
infatuation is akin to mental illness, which gives new meaning
to the phrase "falling madly in love."
findings, reported in the February issue of National Geographic,
also found that the cocktail of brain chemicals that spark
romance are not the same as the ones that foster long-term
commitments. So as we celebrate Valentine's Day, we might want
to think (which is almost impossible when one's brain is flooded
with the delirium of passion) about the longer-term consequences
of our libidinous desires.
Those who have
felt the unrelenting craziness of passionate love know that
reason and reality fly out the window once one's true love
enters the scene. Work, bill paying, responsibilities, sleep -
even getting regular food - can all fall apart, and we find we
have unlimited energies to devote to our beloved. The good news
is that the brain has a built in protection mechanism. The
insanity doesn't last.
that the brains of people in love respond similarly to when it
gets a surge of dopamine. Cocaine users describe an increasing
tolerance for the drug as time goes by, and a need for more and
more of a fix, and lovers' brains do the same thing. After a
while the high just wears off. Although the loss of the rush can
be a letdown, for those who need to hold down a job and keep the
utilities on, it is probably a good thing.
That is not to say
that passionate love cannot morph into long-term happiness. Many
couples in the studies reported that their first blush of
passion was overwhelming, but that as time went on the
irresistible urge to bed each other became tempered by another
desire, to talk to each other and spend time having fun together
in other ways. The relationships that stand the test of time are
the ones in which the lovers discover that they actually like
each other, as well as drive each other mad with desire.
As each of you
celebrate this day of love, we encourage you to enjoy the
unquenchable thirst that our brain chemistry provides when we
find the one that turns us into that lunatic we hardly recognize
as ourselves. Relax and enjoy it. It should be a relief to know
that you are not permanently insane, just crazy in love.
And if you're
lucky in love too, the one that drives you mad between the
sheets will be the same person that you like talk to across the
dinner table. Happy
PrideSource, 2006, Between The Lines News)
Art of Lesbian Dating
Q: What's one of the trickiest
aspects of the lesbian dating scene?
A: One of the things that I hear ladies
talking about the most is how both parties
are afraid to be the aggressor. We were all
raised with, um, let's see -- zero
vocabulary for initiating sex. In fact, for
the most part I'd say that those of us
raised female are taught that the only way
to get dates is to flirt and be coy and hope
someone comes along and demands that you go
out with them. It's easy with guys; you
pretty much just have to stand there and
someone will come along and start hustling
you for a date. I'm not saying this never
happens with girls, but it's rare. If you
want to be successful with the ladies you
gotta learn to make a move.
Q: How can a woman tell by another
woman's body language if she's available and
A: If she's out and by herself, she probably
doesn't really want to be alone -- if she
did she'd stay home. It's also promising if
she's at a table of girls who all seem to be
friends. Go ahead and approach her. Ask her
a simple question. Check her out in a way
that makes her feel hot but don't go
overboard or it will seem like you just got
out of jail. If she leans into you when you
talk to her, it's a sign she's interested.
If she likes you, she will encourage you to
pay attention to her. She'll ask you to join
her, she'll laugh at your jokes, and she'll
listen to you.
Q: OK, so what's the next step?
A: I always recommend flattering the object
of your attention. Compliment her
appearance, her intelligence, her singing
voice or whatever it is you notice about
her. A long, slow glance and a sweet smile
will always get someone's attention.
Approach with confidence and ask a girl
you're interested in if you can buy her a
drink. Try asking her to dance with you or
to join you at your table. Listen to her as
she speaks, and ask her questions about
herself. Whatever you choose, don't ogle her
-- you'll seem like a pervert.
Q: How do you deal with your
advances being rejected?
A: Being out in the dating world means
occasionally facing rejection. If your
self-esteem is intact, rejection won't
register as much more than a tiny blip on
your radar. Reminding yourself on a regular
basis that you are attractive and worthwhile
can help you start believing it about
yourself. Remind yourself as often as you
can that you are desirable, but keep in mind
that doing so doesn't mean that every person
will desire you.
Q: What are some of the best and
worst places to meet other women?
A: You know where we meet each other?
Through other dykes. For one thing, we
recycle exes. Another thing is we all know
each other, so we're good at fixing up
friends with friends. If you are single and
looking, make it known. Tell everyone you
know that you want to meet someone. Go to
parties or throw a party and tell all your
friends that they have to bring along one
person you don't know. Get out, get
involved. Turn your flirt on and smile at
every pretty girl you see.
Joining an activity group of some kind
expands your social circle dramatically.
Start dropping in on your friend's book-club
meetings or get involved with a film
festival. You'll meet new people to whom you
may be attracted, and you'll also have
access to all the people your new friends
know, and you may find that you like one of
Check out queer film festivals, erotica
readings, art openings, yoga, the gym, dance
clubs, bars, the library, Pride festivals,
activist groups, feminist organizations,
LGBT organizations (especially good if
you're just out), or any queer-sponsored
Q: OK, and the worst places?
A: In my opinion, the worst place to meet
women are at giant drunken lesbian events
like Dinah Shore. You might meet someone,
sure, but she might not remember you the
Chelsea Kaplan /
Deputy Editor of thefamilygroove.com
/ Regular guest on XM Radio's "Broad Minded"
and WBAL Baltimore's "The Shari Elliker
Show" / Her
Somebody's Mother?" can
be found at
Tumblr is a
microblogging internet platform
social networking website that
allows users to post multimedia and other
content to a short-form
blog. Users can follow
other users' blogs, as well as make their
can post text, photos, quotes, links, music,
A Tumblr blog calling itself "Cute Lesbian
to submit pictures and stories of themselves
and their girlfriend and view the
hundreds of beautiful photos of other
lesbian couples and accompanying romantic
It's hard not to be impressed
by the wonderful portraits of couples in
love and inspiring and heartfelt
declarations of love and affection.
And it's easy to agree that these truly are
"cute lesbian couples." Visitors are
encouraged to add to the growing collection
of images and quotes.
Cute Lesbian Couples Part 1
Cute Lesbian Couples Part 2
Famous Same Sex
Gay & Lesbian
Facts & Info
Love & Pride
Gay Valentine's Day
Out in the
Are Gay Relationships Different?
One Good Love
Violence & Abuse
Tips for LGBT
Couples & Families
Guide for the
Bi The Way:
In The Family
Gay Law Net
And Sex Advice
Association for Lesbian
Gay Bisexual & Transgender Issues in Counseling of Alabama