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In a time when LGBT families are debated and attacked in the media, courts and Congress, from school houses to state houses across the country, five young people who are children of LGBT parents give you a chance to walk in their shoes - to hear their own views on marriage, making change, and what it means to be a family. This film was produced by the COLAGE Youth Leadership and Action Program and directed by Jen Gilomen.
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LGBT Parents in the Mainstream
These days, gay parents are no novelty: We see them strolling through our neighborhoods, participating in our PTA meetings, and, perhaps most notably, appearing on our TV screens: Mitchell and Cam, fathers to Lily, on the ratings smash Modern Family; Glee's Sue Sylvester, expectant mom to a baby conceived with an as-yet-unrevealed sperm donor, and Rachel's dads, played with humor and grace by Jeff Goldblum and Brian Stokes. Last year, Annette Benning was nominated for multiple awards, including an Oscar, for her portrayal of a lesbian mother to two teens -- and Julianne Moore's better half -- in hit indie movie The Kids Are All Right. These Hollywood examples are important in that they've helped present gay parenting as not unlike straight parenting: challenging, joyful, complicated, and most of all, entirely normal.
Though this media "mainstreamification" of gay parenting is a relatively new phenomenon, for decades, gay parents have had children in all sorts of family configurations -- whether through adoption, previous heterosexual relationships, or, increasingly, by choosing to have biological offspring using in vitro, surrogate, and other methods. According to the 2010 census, a quarter of same-sex American households are raising children, gaining ground on heterosexual couples, who parent at a rate of just under 50 percent. So, millions of children in the United States today have lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender (LGBT) parents. And, just as these families have appeared front and center in the opening credits of the American sitcom, so too have they shouldered themselves front and center in the group photo of the real life American family. Turns out "alternative families" aren't so alternative anymore.
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Kids Raised by Gay Parents
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Gay Parents Raising Kids?
Sometimes people are concerned that children being raised by a gay parent will need extra emotional support or face unique social stressors. Current research shows that children with gay and lesbian parents do not differ from children with heterosexual parents in their emotional development or in their relationships with peers and adults. It is important for parents to understand that it is the quality of the parent/child relationship and not the parentís sexual orientation that has an effect on a childís development.
Research has shown that in contrast to common beliefs, children of lesbian, gay, or transgender parents:
--Are not more likely to be gay than children with heterosexual parents.
--Are not more likely to be sexually abused.
--Do not show differences in whether they think of themselves as male or female (gender identity).
--Do not show differences in their male and female behaviors (gender role behavior).
Although research shows that children with gay and lesbian parents are as well adjusted as children with heterosexual parents, they can face some additional challenges. Some LGBT families face discrimination in their communities and children may be teased or bullied by peers.
Parents can help their children cope with these pressures in the following ways:
--Prepare your child to handle questions and comments about their background or family.
--Allow for open communication and discussions that are appropriate to your childís age and level of maturity.
--Help your child come up with and practice appropriate responses to teasing or mean remarks.
--Use books, Web sites and movies that show children in LGBT families.
--Consider having a support network for your child (For example, having your child meet other children with gay parents.)
--Consider living in a community where diversity is more accepted.
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